My Papa Didn’t Like the Rolling Stones

17 May

Jewish custom has it that when an individual visits a grave, he or she is supposed to leave a stone behind on the monument. I’m not entirely sure  about the origins of this ritual, but it most likely reflects the biblical practice of marking the site of a grave with a pile of stones. I didn’t have any when I visited my father’s grave last week so I left a hockey puck instead.

I haven’t mentioned my father before. He was the parent who did not get to grow old and for who aging issues would never be a concern.

I am already 10 years older now than my dad was in 1969. That was the year I was in the second grade and he died of cancer at 41. As the anniversary of his death was coming up and I was attending a funeral at the same cemetery, I stopped by his grave afterwards to pay my respects.  And as always, to have a good cry about the parent I wish had lived to old age.


Hockey-Stick-and-Puck-Photographic-Print-C11950881 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I wasn’t planning on visiting my father’s grave that day and I didn’t have a stone to leave behind. The best I could do was a hockey puck left over from my son’s winter season of house league.  In some ways leaving a puck as opposed to a stone didn’t seem crazy to me although it’s possible visitors to the cemetery may think otherwise.  I don’t know if my dad was much of a hockey fan. But I’m fairly certain he wasn’t a Stones fan either 🙂

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One Response to “My Papa Didn’t Like the Rolling Stones”

  1. Pearl May 17, 2013 at 2:41 pm #

    Judi, believe me when I say I’ve seen ALL SORTS OF ITEMS left on headstones to mark a visit: shells, polished stones, golf balls, toys, little cars. A puck is a great choice, and you made your mark in style.
    I’m sorry you lost your father at so young an age, and that he didn’t live to see his children grow up and have families of their own.

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